[Steve_]

To bat down a whole bunch more assumptions:

I have my kids 43% of the time. On my days with kids I don’t get on the phone with GF until they are in bed, or in the evening. I don’t call/text all day long. It’s bad even from an attraction standpoint /hat tip to CW.

I am not monkey branching lol. Maybe someone should re-visit that term. That is when you literally are in one R and then you find the next R and transition over. That’s what my EW did. She left me for OM, then left OM for current OM. She allows no gap. Y’all act like I spent time with my EW during this, I had been alone, her with OM since early September. Yes I tried some things to see if I could get her to shake it off and come home but obviously to no avail.

I don’t mind the 2x4’s here but sometimes you guys need to understand too that faith can be a big part of someone’s view on an R. Not just the “dating game” if it was not for the exact lack of red flags (thus far) I would not be exclusive with this GF. But the way we both are that’s how it is. We agreed if it doesn’t work and we don’t end up together long term we will be a good learning point for each other and respect whatever time we had.

She does want kids, I am okay with that, it would be nice to re-live that with a partner who is actually a good partner I missed a lot of the joy of that process due to the toxicity. I explained to her this would be a couple years from now but something I’m okay with. If things work out for us.

Did this happen quick? Yes.. unexpected ? Yes! Was I looking for an R? Hell no. Do I believe god put her in my life for a reason when I forsaked a lot of “hot girls” at work trying to “help me get over this” yea..for sure.

If I thought she was a play toy. I wouldn’t even have bothered. I don’t need that. No offense to casual daters, just people coming in and out of my life casually doesn’t line up with my beliefs.