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[quote=MrBrside] You monkey brached to your current girlfriend, which took your focus of the ex.. Mentally, you have always been attached to somebody.

I have a sinking suspicion his focus is still on his wife.

Hence IMO you found a quick fix.

Yep like a heroin addict getting another fix

I recently came out of a 7 month relationship and my children were totally unaware of the lady.. clueless..

I had two short exclusive relationships 3-4 months each in which my children had zero clue were going on. I did meet the one girls son which was her idea not mine. To each his own.

I didnt call / text her when i looked after my children and i asked her not to call / text me until i instigated ( ie when the children were asleep / gone )

So I didn't set these boundaries but it was sort of a mutual respect thing. I would answer texts when I could but not if I was engaged. We would plan calls at night. We would meet early in the morning for a run or walk before my kids woke up.

She started to ask to meet my children and i just said no.. not happening..

I never experienced this but have respectfully declined if I wasn't ready.

To me there are so many factors in play. Age of children, how long have you been divorced, how long have you been dating, do you see a future, children's maturity.......etc.