[MrBrside]

I do not need her, I am good on my own now, and I like it that way for now. But she adds a little bit of goodness to my life.

Steve,

You were never on your own... Never - you spent months and months trying to manipulate your Ex wife back. Virtually from the day you joined until your GF came along. You may have not been living together, you may have not been physcial, but mentally, you mind was on on thing - wife.. Remember the expensive wine ????

You monkey brached to your current girlfriend, which took your focus of the ex.. Mentally, you have always been attached to somebody.

Hence IMO you found a quick fix.

Re the children being aware. Predictable but not good. I've never pussy footed around my opinions of being a childs rock, but the fact they know soo soon is shocking.. From their perspective, they will always be wondering if you will par them off the way your Ex wife did. I know it worried my children, as they were very aware that their mothers attention was elsewhere when OM was around. I told my children that would never happen and ive stuck to it.

I recently came out of a 7 month relationship and my children were totally unaware of the lady.. clueless..

I didnt call / text her when i looked after my children and i asked her not to call / text me until i instigated ( ie when the children were asleep / gone )
She started to ask to meet my children and i just said no.. not happening..

Rational and logical people - people with their heads screwed on and who dont let emotion cloud their judgement /actions know this - The childrens happyness and mental stability should come above anything, - them knowing they wont have to share me with somebody on their time.