[Steve_]

Well, to address some of this here. I’ll make it short and to the point.

I keep my IL’s close because when my kids are not with me they are with them, living in their home, and they have supported me and the kids 100%. They disagree with D but can do nothing about it. They provide the safe environment my Ex did not when she catapulted the children Into living with OM. I’m glad they are stable there and I want them to remain there down the street safe and 2 mins away as long as possible. This is why I am active with them. (I do not hang out EW) I do not contact her unless she calls about them or the IL’s moving to Arizona needing help. That’s it. (LH19 you said some time ago the ex wanted to friend zone me and I didn’t see it, now that I have accepted it, things are a lot better and pleasant). Should have done that long time ago.

Also, GF again I’ve known for 3 months, my mother and sister have known her for years.. her past relationships all of it, her and my sister are best friends. She is 31 not “20 something” she has a good career, good moral values and has a long record of being dependable, honest and a genuinely good person. That is why I didn’t pass her up.

I have gone out with other girls, 4 of them from work/ friends, they are the typical Instagram chicks, got kids from exes, or wear designer crap they cannot afford, had no real career or goals and spend zero time with god or in church. Just copies of my ex or close to them. A couple were a lot nicer and had decent jobs a couple other nurses but bo connection with god. And if they don’t answer to anyone then the morality Is not there… I won’t budge on that for any woman. I need that in my and my kids life in a partner.

I did not disclose my now GF to my kids, my ex did. I kept the fact I went out with other girls and I was talking to this one a total secret. Until a month ago I asked for days off to go out and the Ex found out somehow. I do not have ex on social media, I don’t have GF on social media. Her Facebook posts and mine are pretty much non-existent. She has met nobody on my side except my mom grandmother and sister from working with them for 6 years. I know I am 100% wrong and this is going to crash and I’m F’ing up in your all’s opinion. But I depend on nobody, I try to remain positive and maintain a graceful relationship with my Ex and and ex in-laws. I don’t need them but I don’t need issues. I rarely communicate just when things come up I will be pleasant. As far as my GF goes it’s not like she’s over at my house folks.. I just agreed to be exclusive with her for our religious purposes. Because that’s who I am, I don’t expect anyone else to respect that.