usually a R this quick after a D is a recipe for.. hurt kids.
Steve, it's simpler than that. Set aside the odds against any particular person working out--especially adding in you've only been on 1-2 dates, are a rebound, have tons of baggage, and are long distance. You want a GF. Your kids do NOT need to be involved. They don't need a new mom. They don't need to wonder what GF's role may be. They don't need the instability of people coming and going in their life. You have all your kid-free days (and kid-free moments on kid days) to focus on your need for a GF.
It's simple. Don't announce your GF on social media, to your XW, or to others likely to tell your kids. Don't call GF in front of your kids. Don't give your kids gifts from your GF. Keep adding to this list as-needed to ensure your dating life does not impact your kids. You can't undo that they know, but you can stop all of the above to downplay her--and stop gift exchanges, stop mentioning her, etc.
Originally Posted by Steve_
I dont date for the sake of getting laid. Its not part of my beliefs, nothing wrong with those who do, just personally I dont like making temporary sexual/romantic connections with people unless they are with a purpose. Id prefer to be alone rather than invite several women into my life for "fun". Some would call me co-dependant but lots of those people have multiple women they date and lie to one another about
I'm having date #5 with MsTallChemist tonight and had date #5 with MsDoGooder last week. They are 2 of 6 women I've dated this month. I'm a true multi-dater! I've been intimate with none of them and they both know there are others. Why so many women, why so many dates? To get to know them and find a great match! How many do my kids know about? Zero. I bet both ladies would bolt if I were crazy enough to propose it! Dating is the process of getting to know someone to see if they might be a great match. (:
