[Traveler]

I got that cwarrior, but my kids were just curious who I was talking to on the phone. For my daughters birthday she got her a simple gift. Again I know that it can be a really bad idea to introduce children to a person who may be a transition only, which is exactly why I have not let them meet, face time, anything. The only thing the kids know about the GF is her name and it was her birthday so they wanted to make little cards to add to a gift box I was putting together. Thats the extent of it. And thats after 3 months.

29 days ago you told STBXW you two were friends for 2 months, and after you divorced you planned to pursue her. Your first date was set for two weeks later. To be in a relationship a month means you declared yourselves in a relationship within a day or two, well before going on your first date. How many dates have you been on? Is this your first long-distance relationship? I'm guessing so. Many people are hesitant to have a second. Read up on them. Some work, but they're often more fantasy than substance.

I got that cwarrior, but my kids were just curious who I was talking to on the phone.

If protecting kids trumps dates, phone calls happen outside the kids' earshot or not at all. Yesterday, I went for a sunset walk to find time to talk to one of my ladies for 14 minutes. I'll admit I have not always been so mature, but my kids don't know (probably--kids are clever!) I'm on date 5-6 with two different women. (:

For my daughters birthday she got her a simple gift.

If protecting kids trumps dates, gifts are not shared so soon. Years ago when a 5yr friend, 2mo lover gave me a gift, I said something along the lines of "Thank you, it's too soon, but I appreciate the effort. I'll save it for Christmas." We weren't dating by Christmas. I eventually donated it.

Steve, you can date without exposing your kids. Just prioritize that and it'll happen.