Well I am pretty sure dating while married and showing up half naked at the pilots isn't in MWDs principles either.
Look KK again maybe your H is having second thoughts. Only time will tell.
That's why I jest... if I was already D I would already be in a relationship that wasn't good for me!
IDK what's going to happen in my future. I think my main goal was to slow down the D as much as possible. 16months ago there was sooooo much angry emotion. I didn't want a D under those circumstances. I didn't want to end up making a huge mistake just because somebody p*ssed you off.
I can say with certainty I'm operating under emotional neutral most of the time. When I am feeling really upset or sad I be sure to table anything I was doing until I have reached emotional neutral again. Sometimes that means writing something out here to get it off my chest.
I can also say that my STBXH is also operating more under emotional neutral.
I think you are less likely to have regret if decisions come from this place. I also feel that with more time and space he might be able to see what he is leaving behind. Maybe he doesn't, but at least I can feel confident that he isn't D out of anger or revenge. That's what is most important to me.
If I'm lucky enough to buy another 6mo I will take it... I don't see that happening... but I'm okay staying in limbo for right now. I'm staying busy.
