Where was a very significant study done almost 2 decades ago showing married couples who were struggling in the M and considering D were much happier 5 years later and grateful they made the effort to stay together... at the moment I am unable to direct quote.
Yes but your STBXH doesn't feel that way. He feels when the going gets tough you replace your problems with other problems. That's how most WS feel.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I think the biggest thing that needs to be addressed on this board is that feelings change all the time... No one person knows what another will feel next week, next year or in 5 years. Of course feelings change all the time! The person who committed to you above all others now suddenly is saying they never loved you... and over time that person may come back stating that they do love you and want only you... and then perhaps now its you who's feelings have changed to not want them anymore. Feelings change all the time.
Yes! That's why my advice is always you wish them well and go in the opposite direction. If they ever change their mind you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Everyone has choices... from the person who left the marriage to person who chose to stand.
But this is where you lose your creditability KK. Screwing around with the pilot wasn't standing for your marriage. IMO you were using him to make your H jealous and he saw right through you.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Right now my STBXH has more issues with the idea of M than issues with me. Those are his issues to work out. Mine are to keep focusing on myself and moving forward.
