Piecing Friends, I attended my family reunion in SC (without my W) and feel like my going without her was the best decision given the circumstances. There were residual feelings lingering from past events.
My W apparently behaved inappropriately just prior to our separation at a family vacation last September. She was described to me by my BIL as arrogant and disrespectful towards me and the marriage. Her approval rating with my family is very low at this time.
The topic of my M was off-limits, and people didn't ask me too much about it, except for my BIL, who is the unofficial family spokesperson. I provided him with vague and general answers as to the status of the M, so that he can provide the family with some information.
My sense is that she won't be welcome back to family events until there is a track record of reconciliation. They don't trust her at this time. They're angry with her for the disrespect and arrogance she displayed at the family vacation last September. They're angry with her for bolting a marriage. I understand their position, and validate it.
I think it's going to take close to a years worth of piecing before my W should consider attending a family event. Damage has been done. My family respects my privacy, but I think they'd be happy to see me D my W. I'm going to have to reconcile without their support.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
