I can identify with your problem, because my sis has lots of nasty things to say about my H and I don't know what would happen if H and I were to get back together...
Can you not encourage your W to go to SF, and say that right at this moment it would be best for "all concerned" if you went to the family reunion on your own, due to family politics? Is your wife actually pressing to go with you?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
