Honeypot, This is a tough call. I don't want my wife to go out of a need to protect her. She would not be welcome at this time. I could insist that she go, or "crash the party." I would "win" on principle, but it would likely be a social disaster.
I tend to see this as an opportunity for her to have a "free pass." She has gone in the past out of obligation. She never likes the accommodations, complains about the insects, and other things. It's not something that she looks forward to, except for the beach aspect.
I understand that my relationship with her is primary. I did offer to her that we travel the first part of the trip by ourselves to a favorite city. She would fly back, and I'd complete the trip on my own. She accepted an invitation to go with a friend to San Francisco, that week.
The timing of this is rough. She still is in Florida, and should be in town this week. From a public standpoint, it looks like we're still separated. It's hard for me to speak with conviction that we're reconciling. There is no reconciliation track-record at this point.
I can only do "damage-control" at this point.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
