Me either I thought it was normal. Saw my dad do it to my mom all the time. I’m not making excuses but us LBS we’re doing the best we could with the life experiences we had at the time. If you continue you this behavior in your next relationship then that’s on you. Scotty B you have read more books and have more coaches then anyone I know.
Originally Posted by ScottB
LH19 - Not sure I completely agree here. There is a difference between abusive and areas to work on, or at least degrees. No one's perfect, but is everyone necessarily abusive? Think the point is ScottyB's W might be exaggerating (or lying) to justify her actions to her friends and family and put herself in a better light.
Let me clarify what I was trying to convey. Scotty's Bs STBXW is telling everyone he was emotionally abusive. She is not lying I am sure he was because of the many different way's you can emotionally abuse someone. As I am sure she was emotionally abusive towards him. The point is for the LBS spouse to learn not to give the silent treatment, Gas Light and be passive aggressive in future relationships. I am not on her side just stating facts. I would think by now everyone would know I am not a fans of WS lol.
Originally Posted by ScottB
LH19 - It'll be interesting to see this transpire. To your points in my thread, it likely will take a very long time. Definitely agree it's good to be able to tell your kids you did your best to fix the marriage and keep your family together.
BL I can see the "fading Affect Bias" in my situation that started almost 7 years. Though I am not a fan of my exw for various reasons when I do think of our marriage I mostly think about the good times. The last three or four years together are very blurry to me I think because my brain blocks them out. The same will happen with your ex. Guarantee it!
