Rottzilla and Piecing Friends, Thanks for the validation. I'm feeling connected and centered after meeting with my church discussion group. An acquaintance and I discussed taking walks around the park where he lives. It's important that I make new connections, whether my M works out or not. This is an area I neglected in the years prior to the separation. I overly relied on career, formal volunteer roles, and my M to meet my needs. This separation has been a catalyst to work on my personal life.
A member of the group asked me how I was doing with the separation. I was perplexed when he asked me what my needs were regarding the M. I think some of my needs were met during the M. What was missing was having a spouse who is happy with her life. I'm willing to give her the freedom to create a life for herself that might make her happy--part-time work, winter vacations in Florida, etc.. I'm also willing to D and let her move to Florida, to start a life for herself. I'm increasingly certain that I don't want to move to Florida--this is where we would part ways.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
