I'm having second thoughts about my W attending the family reunion in June. I was originally thinking it would not be a good idea for her to be around my family for almost a week. I thought it might be too awkward for everyone.
I need to be careful not to decide for her out of my own discomfort. My family has been good about boundaries and treats this as my private issue. Our marital problems would not be a topic of group discussion during the trip. I will see what my W thinks. The conflict avoider in me would prefer that she decide not to go, but the right decision is one in which the relationship is enriched.
Another issue is my concern for how much she drained her retirement assets and savings during the seven month separation. I don't have a dollar figure, but it's likely 10-20K. I'm going to have to work to keep quiet about this issue. It's not a priority at this time. She likely feels justified spending the money. Maybe I need a different perspective on this issue.
People often ask me why I don't seem angry. The money issue seems to be the one that prompts anger. I've been able to contain it so far. I'll need to figure-out how to eventually let this issue go.
It's going to be an interesting summer!
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
