My go to advice. Feeling are fleeting. Do not make life decisions based upon feelings or the lack thereof.D
Originally Posted by DnJ
You are fine and doing well. Encourage and strengthen that thought and belief of you are doing fine. Great even!D
Thanks for this. I was indeed doing just fine and on the right track. And I'm almost there again.
I had a set-back until this morning because I had expectations. I expected (don't know why) H was working on himself and made some progress.
He reached out quite a lot last week in a good way, asking for my help on some things to arrange (not D wise but other stuff) which I off course helped him with. (cake eating?)
Then he called on Saturday to explain his holiday with the children during summer. He sounded very absent, like a stranger almost.
I had a strong feeling he is having an OW2, or even OW3 and is lying about it again. When he told me he almost didn't go to the psychiatrist anymore I couldn't not believe it. This person has helped him in two months time, and he feels better now? How is that possible at all?
He did creep in again due to this and left me feel hurt and anxious which resulted in 2 sleepless nights and some crying.
Strange to say but if I would know he is having an OW, I could be more firm towards him in order to agree to sell the house.
After reading the advice on Cardinal's thread, (DnJ, Scout, kml and Gerda) this has brought me back on the right path. I don't have to think about him, only about myself now since I can't change his path. My path was to set through with the D and that is exactly what I'm going to do. Back on where I left it last week, I'm ready.
Sent him an e-mail today, very straithforward, with a new proposal of the agency with some amendments he mentioned in his last e-mail. I wonder what the reaction will be like now. TBC
