Slowly and Piecing Friends, I find myself increasingly welcoming the opportunity to reconcile. I'm beginning to think the separation may be just what the relationship needed.
If there was an EA early in the separation, it has likely ended long ago. I'm more concerned about health issues, and how to manage family curiosity about the issue. I would want to know that she has no STD's prior to our resuming sexual relations. I don't think there's an easy way to express my concern regarding this, but feel it's fair for me to set limits.
I will have to be realistic that some of my family's relationships with her will be strained for a period-of-time. It will be important that I show support for the marriage during this time, and avoid discussing details with family members to satisfy their curiosity regarding matters such as--finances, EA, marital problems.
I continue to be reluctant about inviting my W to the bi-annual family reunion in June. They would be civil to her, but I fear it would be strained. She feels excluded, that I'm advocating for her not to go, but her judgment seems off about my parent's reaction to the separation. I'm offering a long-weekend alternative we can do, prior to my going to the family reunion.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
