I agree, PLC, IC has often been the only way I can maintain some outside perspective and not get sucked into H's story of me/us. I wish it were more accessible and affordable in this country.
I'm sorry H has put your daughter in this position. It's a whole other dimension of hurt, isn't it? And it's also sad that he can't recognize how he's harming that relationship, or at least the full extent of it. To not be able to tell her Happy Birthday? That can't be easy for you to witness. But it's good that she feels she can be open with you. I imagine it must be a weight off her shoulders to be able to share some of this and to know that you will listen. You can tell her Happy Birthday, you can tell her how happy you are that she was born.
What a great opportunity for her to live and work in Europe! Kudos to her.
