Three months after meeting OM on a dating website, she created a "vision board" or what I call a "delusion board" that she hung on her bedroom wall. Anyone could see it and my kids went in her room all the time. I can only imagine what they thought.
She did this in the house you both lived in, with the teenaged kids around who could read it? That is crazy. My wife was lying and deceitful but at least she TRIED (albeit unsuccessfully) to hide it.
Your children are in their teenage years so I imagine they observe and have opinions on much more than my 6yo/2yo. Are they talking to you about their feelings? Are you discussing how this situation is impacting them and how they feel about it? Don't think you should be railing on their mom to them, but also think it's important to be a safe space to allow them to open up and share their feelings, and even at their age get their opinions on some of the decisions.
Originally Posted by Drh2001
She was told by a psychic that "she wouldn't be "single" for long" and recently told me that she and OM "were meant to be."
My W went to a physic multiple times as well to "figure out what's going on with her life"....while I was meeting with counsels and our priest. Not sure if she even knows I know, but her mom encouraged it. Nutty.
Originally Posted by LH19
Dude your EXW is a kook. Do yourself a favor and run as fast as you can in the opposite direction.
Originally Posted by Thornton
Agree with LH.
Your WW is not one I would encourage you to reconcile with. She comes across as incredibly impulsive and selfish.
^Agreed!!!
Originally Posted by Drh2001
The stress has finally got to me and I was diagnosed as a pre-diabetic. Most of my blood work was flagged. I can still turn this around and prevent a type I or type II diagnosis.
I need to work out more and take better care of myself. I have a bunch of DIY projects and a book I'm writing so I'm not sitting at home feeling sorry for myself.
Take care of yourself first and foremost so you can take care of your children!
Originally Posted by Drh2001
WW is giving me a lot of issues. I was the last to know that she was moving to Pennsylvania although it is a few more miles for me to go get them. Under NJ law she is supposed to ask my permission to move them out of state and refuses to do it telling me I can get my lawyer to contact her.
Sounds like you're near the PA/NJ border, but can your wife move out of state without impacting the custody agreement? Both your kids are still in school, correct? I don't know about NJ, but we have an agreement where the kids remain in the school district unless both of us agree otherwise. If one parent moves out of the district the kids remain going to that district. I would think most courts and states would have issue with one parent moving out of state, and give the benefit of the doubt to the parent staying in the school district (for the kids' benefit). You may want to address that with your L.
Hi BL42, thanks for your comments. I'm about half an hour from the PA border. She needs my consent and that of the court. I gave her my consent after she finally contacted an attorney, who told her what I said. WW and OM bought the house last month. I was the last to know they were moving to PA. Both my kids are in school (though full time virtual remote) and they live with me during the school week and she gets them for long weekends.
She was lamenting the other day how my eldest daughter only "visits" her and doesn't seem to want to stay there for any length of time.
