I don't think I can count on a good cooperation kml...
Since I received no response to my email, I forwarded the signed version of the agency's contract to him on Sunday.
Got an answer yesterday.
Literally his words: With all due respect, I can't sign this. Thought I said in the past that I can't accept that I should pay commission of x% (not even 0.000001%) to an agency to buy my own house?? That really doesn't work for me.
Then some calculations etc. and another question that if it is sold for that amount, what is left for us.
Basically he just stretches it, no more, no less.
I now want to send an answer back but I came to ask you some advice first, for all who is willing to.
I would like to send the following:
I honestly don't get it anymore. You cannot buy the house at the agreed price because you cannot get a loan, how do you see the further process, because I honestly see no other way out than selling with the option as I presented you. You know if it goes below a certain price, there is no obligation to sell and you can still buy it. We're not going to lose anything if we don't try.
Can you please tell me what you want, (his name), because it's not really clear to me anymore?
There's something else I wanted to share with you..., something I had on my my mind for a very long time but I was to anxious to take the step, now I finally did:
I had a difficult conversation with my MIL a few weeks ago. I already mentioned that she is the biggest cause from his past as to why he is going through this crisis now. (both my FIL's are convinced of this as well)
kml recommended the book about sociopaths and I started reading it. Well, I totally recognize his mother in this.
The story in short: I knew for several months already from my BIL and SIL that she could say very ugly things about me. She even said that it must be me as to why this is all happening with him, also that I was mainly with him for the money etc. You need to know that I've done a lot for her over the years. She is single (2x married, 2x divorced, and treated both her husbands very badly), but I was always there to take care of her when she had an accident, ill from COVID etc, and most important, she was always welcome at my house until a few weeks ago. She even came on a weekly basis...
After much thought and good advice from my best friend and my sister, who both know the full situation, I decided to cut her out of my life for a while. I could only do that by talking to her and honestly tell her what I feel about her relationship with her son and how she acts towards the children and me. (I did not mention anything about what BIL and SIL told me as I did not want to violate their trust)
That the way she treats her son or talks about her son is her choice but that she can not do this anymore in my house, not towards me nor to the kids because it's very painful. (she's constantly talking about how smart, beautiful, fantastic he is to anyone who wants to hear it, including himself. He can't do anything wrong to her, it's sick)
She was surprised and didn't like to hear what I was saying (she can say anything about anybody but nobody can tell her anything about her), and she told me she did that because everybody is against him and she wants him to feel good, as everybody makes a mistake sometimes. (says it all I guess) I friendly acknowledged that it is her relationship and she does whatever she wants but not anymore towards me. We seperated in a normal way.
If you know me a little bit, I'll be very honest, this was a very difficult thing to do, but aftwards the anxiety which I felt already so long when she was around is finally starting to fade.
When I had H on the phone 2 weeks ago he asked me if I had a fight with his Mom. Apparantely she told him we had a fight. What a joke...
Strange how a mom would do anything to bring her DIL in a bad light towards him. It's like she wants him to choose her over me, can you imagine how crazy this is? This would never have to be a choice?
I simply told him the truth what happened and what I told her. He said he knew who and what she was and that it is good to take some distance from her because she is not a good person but that I'd better done it in another way...I left if for what it was.
Anyway, I'm currently sitting on my covered terrace with my PC, it was a very hot day today, and there was just a huge thunderstorm. The rain which just fell gave a cooling down to the trees and the grass and it simply smells wonderful. Life is good right now.
