Well a lot happened today. Thank goodness IC was in the afternoon. D has been given an opportunity to live in Europe this summer for a job. They are paying for her to stay there and meals. She’s almost 26 and this is the perfect time to go, as she is not in a relationship and does not have any debt here. (Plus she’s sleeping on the couch) so she and I are sorting thru items she wants to take. H has been very aloof and distant, he seems to be interacting with OW1 while being engaged to OW2 ( and married to me) I think things are imploding in his life as he threw a huge tantrum at D that she is a slob ( we are organizing for her trip ) and that she does nothing around here. (She pays for her health care, her gas, meals for she and I and some of her groceries) she in turned yelled at him and asked what he does around here. He repeatedly hung up on her and left me alone.
She finally broke down and told me she knew of the OW’s as she found out and confronted him two years ago when this happened. He told her not to tell me and she was worried about me. I told her what I knew and tried to relieve her concerns. He apparently told her he planned on renting out his uncles (who is alive and healthy, btw) home and “traveling the world” not having a home. She asked if he was going to live in the country that ow’s are in and he scoffed and said no, so she asked if he was bringing them to the us and again he told her no.
He has acted so out of character, I could only attribute this to MLC, plus he is acting like a class A A**. IC definitely helped as I was overwhelmed.
I understand things are not going his way and he can’t provoke me so he went for her. I can say that this brought D and I closer and that is always a good thing.
She had to run errands so I went along, when we came back around 6:00, he was home and closed Into the bedroom. I was asked what would happen in IC when they would fight before bd, and I would tell her to apologize and I would tell him I spoke with her. Then things would be fine. This is the first time I’m avoiding getting involved, so we will see what’s happens when he’s around her.
It’s sad, because she said she doesn’t need or want to take care of him when he’s older. I told her that’s between him and her. He was shocked back when she originally confronted him that she told him if he wanted a relationship with her that he needed to tell me that he wanted a divorce. That’s the only reason he said anything. So their relationship right now is not the best and I fully understand, he’s blown it up. I wonder if he even realizes it.
