I just read all your posts in this thread. You are now my poster child on how to DB.
This was a perfect response when you found out about the affair:
Originally Posted by Spiral
I simply told her that she needed to pick one of us and that the one she didn't pick would no longer be a part of her life. And I left it at that.
Originally Posted by Spiral
As far as I know, her new life with OM is going great and she's still dreaming of her happily ever after. But I wouldn't know. I don't discuss her life with anyone.
Glad that you don't know. No reason for you to. Just know your first assumption is most likely wrong. She and OM brought bad relationship skills into their "relationship". Hopefully you have been doing your homework over the past 15 months and have a new set of skills.
The one question I have is did you find a safe way to release your emotions?
Anyway, anyone reading this post that is looking for a good example on how to DB should read this thread and follow his lead on how to behave during this most difficult of situations.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
