To answer your question LH, I remain friends for the sake of my children, and because as a Christian I have to try to go to sleep without hate in my heart, I also have to realize that yes she was absolutely horrid to me and continues to be morally corrupt, but I must set the example for my children and give her some grace as the mother of my kids, but I say friendship loosely, if she becomes disrespectful or anything I instantly disengage/hang-up etc.
About a week ago she admitted to going back to OM she left me for, told me it was "my fault" since I had "gave up" and paid the filing fee at the beginning of May. I just laughed at that. And explained how I patiently waited for 8 months.. She said "you just wanted to rush things" I told her no, and its okay, I accepted it all, im alright where I am now.
She seemed to be angry after hearing that I had been seeing a different woman, she acted very happy for me and then the tune changed to "wow, you really downgraded" and some other nonsense, she took it upon herself to inform my children. Which they were totally fine with and happy about but I was far far far from ready to tell the kids I had seen another lady. It will be a loooooong time before this girl meets my kids if ever. She has a long process to go through with me first and I am in no rush to get into a serious R any time soon. I know The ex did it to punish me since the children and her family figured out she was back staying overnight with OM she left me for again. (she cannot be alone, she is a monkey brancher, there is no future in that R with him but whatever, she is sick right now and spinning). It seems she got a hold of social media on her mothers account and seen a snap chat of me out hiking with the girl I'd been talking to. Not her face or anything just trees but her voice was in it making a joke. Then she somehow did this female investigation and found out who she was. Its rediculous really...
I just maintained a positive attitude and told her I want her to be happy as well. Yesterday she came to pick up the children, she was 4 hours late. I asked her why, and told her its too late for them on a school night. She told me well you can watch them "you are still my husband legally, I didnt pay the last $700, so its not been finalized yet" I responded with a smile, and said, actually I called earlier asked about the case, was told there was a balance and i paid it. its all done. (I showed her the recipt, I knew she had the money she was bragging about her stocks going up 2k) it was a manipluation tool and it cost me more than I had, but I want to be free of that. She looked very disturbed. Then asked me if my friend was coming up this weekend and thats why I wont be having the kids. I told her Im going up hiking for memorial day, and that I do not ask her whereabouts on her days off. She looked upset. I told her "listen, I know its hard, now its real to youl, but for me It was a long time ago, I had to process all the stuff you are going through now, I told her it would be okay, and I told her I would be here for the kids for sure no matter what".
Other than that I applied for 4 new state jobs to increase my monthly income by 3,000 ish. Hopefully I land one, I feel like I will. Things are looking up and I dont feel anything towards the WW, I see how sick she is and It makes me sad but other than that I do miss the potential R once in awhile, but I know its fantasy that will never happen, and I move on.
Last edited by Steve_; 05/26/2106:51 PM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
