A week or so later I asked about something random to him. I get multiple text messages back. About how he just wants to move on and how he sees all these "bad" signs when he has been in my town many months ago. Now, all but 1 visit he was here on his own personal business or that of OW... I got descriptions of how he was cut off in traffic, how he was rear ended, how he had been run off the road, ((and the one visit regarding me --- he arrived in town for court date and it had been postponed of which I had not been notified either, so a waste of his time.)) THIS ^^^^ This is the reason he will not consider recon, though that is not what I was texting him about... its just what came out of his mouth.
Curious as to what was important to text him to where it is turned into a relationship talk where he just reaffirmed to you that you are not good enough?
Originally Posted by KitCat
But he was looking to recon... they could have been good signs... when I am not with you I get run off the road... when I am not with you nothing goes my way.
You have never given him the time or the space to remember the good times.
Originally Posted by KitCat
This man was soooo happy to have randomly run into me on the highway that he was texting multiple times --- that he thinks he just saw me on X road 20min ago... was it me??? Wouldn't then that be GOOD sign making all those other signs months ago fade in comparison???
I think you really have blown that incident way out of proportion.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I feel your pain.
Yet you do not do anything to detach from it.
Originally Posted by KitCat
My STBXH texted that he is filling his life with healthy relationships with the best of friends and occasionally family so much so that he has finally quit smoking. ((he had quit when we met and got together... but stress of his job, his kids and being tired all the time he fell back into it... I was angry over it and pulled away. I tried to find a neutral place where I did stop nagging for the last 2yr... sigh))
So now you have him texting you how wonderful his life is without you. That must feel amazing (insert LH eyeroll)
