[SteveLW]

I do not have regret, and I am so thankful to god and to many of you for that. I felt like I really did a good job hanging in there for a long enough time, really giving it my best shot before taking a knee and I knew I needed to do that before moving forward. Especially so if the ex decides to try some attempt to recon later, I can feel good about the 1,000 chances shes blown and keep moving forward knowing she had her shot and no looking back on coulda, woulda, shoulda.

Steve_, I am glad you can look back without regrets. I think you could have done that weeks, maybe even months ago. But it isn't my sitch, it is yours. However, I think there is a 180 opportunity in the future, that from now on you will be self respecting enough to not tolerate such a long period of disrespect, and stand for YOURSELF sooner and pull the plug. Right now you have a tendency to grab on due to your codependent nature, and not let go, even when you should. Let your self-respect outweigh your fear of losing what you have.

Just an observation. I fear that if she came back and made promises right now you would take her back. I hope I am wrong, but I fear that you would run back IF she said the right things. That is why I say you've come a long way but still have a long way to go. I think you try to convince yourself that YOU are moving on, when really she has given you no choice.