Sorry to hear your WAS is following through with the divorce. I agree with what others have said...get a lawyer to protect yourself. Also agree with what LH said. There are always two sides to everything. Whether or not your disagreements reached the level that they can be defined as emotionally abusive is a matter of opinion, I suppose. Often people assume that it means there has to have been a lot of yelling and name calling for that to be the case. It’s not. There are other more subtle ways. The silent treatment, subtle put downs, insisting on my way or the highway without giving the other person a chance to talk, etc... Abuse is really the other person’s experience of it. You don’t have to mean to abuse someone for it to happen. If you grow up in a family where that is the norm, you may not even recognize it. Your W may be over exaggerating to justify her departure but then again, she may not be. Regardless, self-examination is always an important process so I encourage you to engage in it. Take responsibility for your part in it and fix the parts that need fixing. It will be important for your kids that you do so. (((HUGS)))
