Quote: I think some members here have made a pretty clear case that you are in a very abusive situation.
The word "abusive" can mean at least four completely different things...
"Abuse" can refer to sexual abuse, or to wife battering. These are dangerous situations where the person being abused should try to get out of the situation quickly.
"Abuse" can refer to insulting or coarse words. This is a problem - to me, it really is abusive - but not dangerous in the same sense. My wife was abusive in this way for many, many years, belittling and insulting me regularly, and it has been wonderful to see her change completely on this front.
These are the ways that my dictionary talks about abusing people. When it comes to abusing things, it just mean "improper or wrongful use," as in "abusive use of public funds." This is more the kind of abuse that Aloma has experienced - she has been used in a wrongful way, not in the sense of forced sex, but in the sense of just being plain rude. But sometimes people do change and learn not to be so darn rude.
