Just had a very difficult, crazy conversation with H. He sent me a message last week concerning the purchase of the house, that he could not borrow enough for the time being and that we had to talk about it. Had replied to him to let me know when.
Since I didn't hear anything, I sent a message yesterday with the request to contact me in regards to the above. He actually called today.
At first calm and friendly, some small talk about the children, etc. He then started talking about the purchase of the house, about the fact that the banks would not give him the necessary amount as discussed to give to me, but that this could possibly be done within a few months, if I could wait a few months or if I could agree to accept a part now, with an explanation of a weird set-up that made little sense to give the rest of the money at a later stage. (in fact a set-up whereby a final divorce is not yet possible)
I answered him honestly that I wanted to move forward, have a new start and that I would like a settlement as soon as possible. That I could check if I could go along with the plan he had in mind, but that this had to be clearly put on paper first (in order to understand what he meant as it was not clear to me at all - MCL talk ). I started talking about the household effects, that if he would buy the house all the furniture would then remain here and that we had to arrange this part as well. (was already agreed in the draft document we made together of the divorce)
Sudden change in behavior, there was the monster again:
That I was no longer entitled to that, that he already wanted to pay enough for the house and that I always want to get the most out of it. That if we would sell the house I would get much less money then what he proposed, but that I had to go ahead with it, that he did not want to buy it anymore now.
I told him in a calm way that I know him well enough, he cannot act this way, that this will not work anymore. Then he paused a while and started all over again.
I simply said it is a shame that these talks always have to end in an endless discussion, that we better leave it this way and I will put it up for sale now.
He agreed and said that he would buy it through the agency???
Frankly, I'm devastated. It is sometimes so unrealistic to see how he turned out. He is like the devil, negotiating is absolutely not possible with him...
The children came home from school, unfortunately I could not hide my grief. Told them honestly that I had a conversation with their father about the house and that it was a very difficult and painful one.
I'm going to start-up the sale now. All of this really has to stop. I'm so tired, fed-up with it, sad, angry...will this ever come to an end?
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