Steve_, the only way you know for sure that you do not need anyone........is to be alone for a period of time and be happy and healthy. I am afraid that you only moved on from STBXW because of this new woman. This is the WORST thing a codependent person can do. Use someone to get over another. I know you don't see it that way, but whether you are willing to admit it or not this is what you are doing. You don't go from jumping the moment the STBXW showed the smallest willingness to get back together, to moving forward with the D and being completely at peace with it this quickly.
Your life, your choice, but I unfortunately see you having a lot of issues in the future with a new person until you work on becoming the best version of yourself.
I don’t want that either Steve, I don’t want that to be the case here. I have considered just telling this girl I can’t even be friends right now. Honestly I’m not sure what the right thing to do here is. Which is why I posted it. I do feel okay with how things are because I know stbxw is never going to be good to me /for me. I did accept that before even meeting this girl and I filed before meeting her because I did not want her to be the “reason” I finished the D. And by filed I don’t mean like started, I mean I laid the filing fee so it will be finalized in 2 months. I did that BEFORE meeting this girl ever. Because I know how bad it is to use someone else to get over someone else. But it still seems like this could be a bad idea because of how long it took me to finish the D and now I’m talking to someone else doesn’t look good to people. I get that. I’m aware of that. And I am considering just backing away and sort of not continuing with the friendship. It would just be a shame since this girl is a really really good person. So idk what to do here.
Last edited by Steve_; 05/18/2102:46 PM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
