oh and 3 months before introducing the children !!!!!!

3 months.. Seriously..

Your kids have been through more than most children...

3 years is closer to the money - 3 months , 6 months 12 months - in your sitch it makes you as bad as the ex..

Introducing OW to kids any time before 2023 is a quick fix for you to play happy families.. until it all goes south and the kids are left spinning again.

Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..

Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.