Yeah I agree, but I was handing her a greeting card for Mother’s Day and my god son’s birthday. She answered the door instead of the in-laws.
"I agree, but" = an excuse. Usually overcoming an excuse simply requires trying, but if you get stuck, let us know and we'd be happy to offer guidance. You must know there are at least millions of divorced couples in the world myself included who manage to exchange kids without talking to each other.
Originally Posted by Steve_
Maybe someday she will realize what she threw away. she has not felt the real pain yet
If she becomes a better person--healthier, stronger, and not needing a man's attention--she'll probably seek a man who similarly doesn't need her attention or another woman's. You're slowly getting there.
You don't know what she felt before BD. LBSs often underestimate that pain before their pain.
What did she throw away? On the one hand, you displayed admirable loyalty. On the other hand, you valued yourself so little you went to great lengths to try to win over a 7x cheater shacked up with your "best friend". You saw her as high value compared to you, even imagining she could have anyone she wanted, while most of us said "ewww". Hopefully, a bit further along now, you realize like most men we'd say "ewww" to an LTR with her due to her ugly personality, even if she lived 5mi away and looked like <insert supermodel here> when airbrushed. You were dating a serial cheater. She was dating a man with no self-esteem who accepts dubious friends. You can hope she raises her standards for her and your kids, but you can only fix you. (:
