Time for a new thread which is called: My Story P2...Acceptance of the MLC Madness
My first title should have been: My Story P1...Survival of the MLC Madness
I guess I was too positive about the progress which I thought I noticed in him when I started my 1st thread...(always been a bit of an optimist on all levels :D)
BD April 2019 with the famous ILYBNILWY. Started an affair a few weeks before that timing. Immediately found out. Lying, spewing, rewriting of history, wanting both of us, etc. until I kicked him out 09/2019. Came back 2 months later, totally broken. (way too soon) Final break-up with OW 02/2020.
COVID so home from 02/2020 until 08/2020. Deep outward depression, first signs of aknowledgement that something is really wrong with him. Still shows a lot of running behavior such as drinking heavily.
Accepts new job abroad since 04/2020, working from home since COVID, asked him to leave for the other country in 08/2020 since behavior is extremely bad for myself and my 3 boys, all teenagers.
From 09/2020 until 12/2020 slightly showing improvement whilst abroad, new running behavior...working out (sports) to an extreme level. As from 12/2020 clear set-back into tunnel (possible new OW in the picture)
01/2021 asked for divorce, I agree.
Same month he informs me that OW1 passed away. (suicide) Never known for sure if there is or has been an OW2. Not interested either.
Process of D is in my hands, since he doesn’t act, but I want financial independence so I proceed. Friendly but firm.
As from that moment I’ve started to accept the process, this is the time I start to find my way back to happiness, I finally learned how to let go for ‘real’. The reading, talking about it, processing, this forum,...helped me in finding the new me.
I’m still there in a certain way for him, but completely detached. We have regular contact, again friendly but firm. I feel strong, ready to write a new chapter in my life, together with my 3 fantastic children who make me so proud every single day. He could learn a whole lot from them.
