I agree 100%. What I thought when I read your message--you want to be pals with your XW. There's nothing wrong with that. Actually, my ex-wife (10yrs later) just agreed (in principle) to hang out as friends. I don't mind if she gets a new BF. I have several XGF's, however, where more distance seems appropriate due to feelings, baggage, emotional problems, etc. In that case, no contact makes much more sense.
