I do not think there is a one-size fits all answer to your question. I think that it all depends what your future goals are with this woman. Are you still wanting a future R with this women? Or are you okay having her as a friend.
I just watched a video of the now late Tawny Kitaen. I was a child of the 80s and absolutely adored her. I saw a video this week of her talking about her parents' D, and how they remained friends until her mother died. They would get together with the kids with their separate SOs. Etc. Every situation is different.
Personally, in your case, I would want to have as little contact with the XW as possible. You have no kids, you have no mutual ties. I wouldn't want to be friends, so I would ignore her email. I would get my 1/2 of the refund and leave it to her and the company involved to get her 1/2. This is just me. I tried the "let's stay friends" with a longtime on-again, off-again GF and it just didn't work for me. I have plenty of friends, I didn't need an ex-flame for a friend.
If you are okay being pals, then by all means respond like a friend would, and then include the information about refund. But remember, this gains you no points. You should do it with no expectations. And if it in anyway sets back your detachment and moving forward then I would not respond. Personally, I would not want my XW for a tax customer.
Love your list! Keep up the good work!
Last edited by SteveLW; 05/11/2107:32 PM.
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