The longest STBXH has gone without contacting me over the last 15months is 9 days.Well yesterday was day 9. I immediately hit ignore. Its Friday. He probably is asking if I have heard from my atty... AND I SO DO NOT WANT TO DEAL. I decided it was time to read the texts and just deal with it.
If his texts take up so much mental space--you're counting how many days since the last one, you're anticipating what they'll say, you finally decide you have to "deal with" them--why not just block him? I'm curious why you continue to maintain this attachment. There's no business need--he doesn't need to know when you've heard from your attorney, he can ask your attorney any questions directly. He can also e-mail you. Fewer connections will help you detach, especially as you're aren't leveraging other tools like counseling. I suspect you feel a dip in how much mental space he holds, but it's still more space than the ideal.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Told him it I didn't notice him but that was us as the timing was right when we were on the road. Then said S19 is home and sent a pic of the mountain of laundry in the laundry room laughing.
You're continuing down the friends path. That's okay if it's what your heart desires.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Sometimes the universe is a cruel mistress!!!
In what way? You control whether you receive, read, and respond to these. Ms Universe is giving you opportunities. So many options, and entirely up to you what to make of them.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Then I showered and went out to the bar with the "guy friend" that we've been walking our dogs with about every 2 to 3 weeks. So it was a great night. My "date" bailed at 10pm stating it was past his bedtime... but I stayed another hour. Had an amazing time.
Careful not to fall into a relationship. After my 4 month hiatus--a hiatus from anything even possibly leading to romance was SO helpful for clearing my head--I'm beginning to date intentionally. That means I set standards and I check women against them. It's not enough to be attractive and into me. It's a slower dating process, but one that should end in me falling for a better match, or staying happily single.
