It was MLC. Now I am calling moving forward.

[Wolfman]

Dawn. I did say she doesn’t cook. That has been the last 5-6 months give or take. Before she got pregnant she did everything for them like they were her children. So I apologize for how I say things on here. I stink sometimes at explaining. As far as the bf, my d stated in therapy that he is nice. But that was really it. Never once said anything positive about my gf. Even from the very first day, when she met her. The next day I asked her, what do you think. Her exact response was, “she’s too nice, no one is that nice.” Maybe it’s just me, but I never heard anyone complain someone is too nice.
Dawn I recognize the situation is a huge cluster f. Look to I never talked badly about my ex to my kids, trust me I so want to, but what will that do? I would never want to be in the way of my kids having a relationship with their mom. Like I said many times, the proof I have is the numerous text messages between my d and ex. Bashing us, tell my d to hide things, to lie to me, keep things from me. Do I have anything recently, no. Those were from last year. I am hoping to use all these messages in my court case.
Look I was not expecting to get into another relationship so fast. I was seriously looking to have fun for a while. I did date other women, I just fell for this one. I never wanted to fight with the ex, as a matter of fact I was constantly just giving in to her to avoid confrontation. But like people say you have to create boundaries and when I did, that’s when her anger towards me grew. Once I had a gf well then it was, “game on” for her. Anything I tried to do for or with my kids I contacted the therapist. Give you an example, not sure if I have posted this before. When I realized that this was going to be long term with my gf, I contacted my d therapist and asked how do I go about speaking to the kids about it. She told me I should let the ex know first, this way if the kids have any questions she would be prepared to answer them. I’ll never forget the next day was my s hip hop dance competition. In between dances (which was 2 hours between each) she approached me aggressively and said, “I heard you have a girlfriend!!” I said, “I was going to speak to you about this later, but since you are asking, I do.” Her next response was, “when we’re you going to tell me?!!” I said when I realized this was going to be long term. I just want you to know I am going to talk to the kids tomorrow about it.” She literally turned and stormed off. The next day when I went to pick up my kids from school, I said guys there is something I need to talk to you about. They both said we know, you have a gf. I said what? They said we know mom told us already. I said ok. Then my d starts saying, dad you know what they say about girls? I said, “what do they say?” She said they are a little bit crazy. I said huh. She said yeah girls are crazy. There is more to this but I think you get the point. Then when I was going to introduce the kids, I spoke with her therapist about how to do it. That day I called the ex to let her know. Again, I got h3ll from her. That why didn’t I tell her sooner she needs to know these things in advance. And I would have but after what she did last time I didn’t feel comfortable. Yet my ex never told me she even had a bf, or when she introduced him. I was always in the dark. She would make plans with my kids on my days all the time and ask me to switch but ask me the day before. At first I was like sure, as long as I didn’t have any major plans. But then I started to become more and more. Then I started to make plans with the kids on my days and when she asked me to switch I told her nicely, I am sorry but this is my day with the kids and I already made plans for us. She would start saying oh you are going to be vindictive now!!! This is how you get even?? I said these are my days and I am sorry but you do not have a right to make plans with the kids on my days. The more boundaries I set the more hostile she got with me. Look I. My marriage, right or wrong, I gave her everything and did anything she wanted. I thought by doing that I was being a good husband, but deep down, I only created a monster. And she expected in divorce too. Another example, last year for my sons birthday his basketball coach contacted me about having a birthday parade for my son. I said that’s a great idea did you speak to his mom too? He said no, I said speak to her too that you were thinking this and this way we can figure out who’s house to do it at. He calls me back and says, she said you can have it at your house. I found out she was having a parade at her house. I found out she had one for him, didn’t tell me or even invite me to be in the parade for my s. Meanwhile I am trying to get her involved. Mother’s Day I had my kids give her something, she did t do the same. Christmas I got gifts for my kids to give her, she didn’t do the same. So honestly your last statement is a little bothersome because I have tried to do the right thing for my children.
I really feel she wanted me as plan “b”. And when she lost me as plan b things got horribly worse fast.