I was just reading the story of HaWho and was amazed to read that the children had to hide the marriage from her all this time. This must be really incredibly difficult for kids of this age. Respect!
I also read the reactions and could understand from this that an MLC’er constantly rewrites his history in the running phase, clearly lives in a fantasy world and does not admit that he has serious problems he has to deal with, but does it also happen that they show both signals?
That they openly say that they have a problem but that they still function quite well on the outside? (of course do not know to what level as he hides his live very well but sometimes tells something, like ‘just did a diving course during a weekend with X and Y’, his new MLC friends)
The reason why I am asking this is because we called this week for some financial matters, his next visit + holiday arrangements for the children. He sounded normal for the first time in a long time, was completely sober (otherwise always drunk when he has to arrange stuff with me, or sober but then very cold person) and was very accommodating on all of the above. His next visit is just before the children's exams and he asked if it might not be better to postpone it for a few weeks because his visit could have too much of an impact on their preparation (which is very much the case), crazy to hear now he finally realizes he has a huge impact on their emotions because of his behavior. Also financially very helpful, do what is good for you, I have so much on my mind at the moment, so much to deal with, I know you will handle everything with respect.
I did not give a lot of reaction, simply validated, but thought this was all a bit bizarre...
