My son was at my house and said a little and nothing was wrong. But my ex kept him at her house on my day, saying his allergies were bad. And the woman interviewed him again. This time he said my gf was mean to him, yells at him, and the best one she never lets him and I have time alone.
Wolf, I'm going to share something personal. My first visit from CPS was in 5th grade, and my parents persuaded me to lie to cover up their crimes. When they asked how I was punished, instead of relaying a near-death experience, I told them an anecdote my parents made up and had me practice until I sounded convincing. "Well, there was one time I wouldn't do my chores, and my parents wouldn't let me have a Snickers bar. That was so wrong!" Why did I lie, besides being 10? They said if I told CPS the truth, I'd be taken away and sent to a home in a neighborhood with gangs and drug dealers. A shout out to my 5th grade teacher for being the first to see I was abused.
So, coaching is a thing. 1. CPS always interviewed me out of earshot of my parents. When you say what was said where, are these assumptions, or they released a report with those details? 2. If they released a report, what did they say about mom and mom's house and mom's bf? 3. If they released a report, what are they recommending? CPS tends to prefer corrective action over long-term removal. 4. Do you think S went along with it because he doesn't want to see GF anymore? At 10, per the above, my reasoning was beyond, "Because Mom said so!"
I wonder if there's some "no contest" option where you don't admit guilt, but simply take a parenting class and ensure your kids get to see you WITHOUT seeing your girlfriend and life gets back to normal.
