I was struck reading your post that you most certainly can know a person by how s/he faces loss, devastation, death of loved ones, death of the loved ones of someone s/he used to love. Your XW handled it in a way that made who she is very clear to you. But your light shone through this post too -- the way you faced this terrible journey and loss with love and courage and hope and sorrow -- even your sorrow and despair is a light to us reading this story. Your parents lived love all the way to the end, and you are the son anyone would want there at the end of life, even if it came in this way that seems so unfair. What do we really have in this life but to love each other as hard as we can while we can, to enjoy every moment, and to stand by each other when we are sad or sick -- or dying. Your story shows this at each stage, how to live with this kind of love and grace. You always inspire me as to what a man and a father can be, and now also I see that you are equally wonderful as a son and a brother.
Love to you and your family, so glad your daughters had that model of love in their grandparents, and from their dad before, now and always. They have suffered so much loss, your girls, but I am sure that all the love they have had from you and their grandparents has given them a real foundation, they will be the wisest girls in the world, hard-earned for sure.
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I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
