This is normal, when you do the right thing you always wish you had done it sooner. You keep saying "7 months", but then you've admitted that she has been a WW for 11 years, and multiple OM. I think Steve, this is something that you could explore in IC. Why you refuse to look at the reality of whatever situations you are in. Maybe it is a PTSD thing. Or maybe it is a defense mechanism that is more related to how you deal with things. But you've repeated this "waiting 7 months" when really your WW has made you MR a mess for a lot longer than 7 months.

Overall, I am liking the new outlook! I encourage you to continue moving forward. Continue to work on yourself. Continue to learn what self-differentiation (a better term for general detachment rather than just being detached from one person) means and learn how to be properly differentiated (a simple way of looking at it is learning to be happy by yourself). Continue to build out your NON-ROMANTIC support system, new friends, reconnecting with old friends, having a good core of people that you hang out with, regularly interact with, and that you have a good friendship with. (Give you an example in my life: my hunting buddies and I rarely go a week without exchanging at least text messages. We average hanging out every 2-3 months, outside of hunting season. This is what I mean!)

You can do this! You can continue working to move forward, the right way! We are here to help to Steve_, if nothing else to encourage you when you are doing the right things, and giving you different perspectives when you start going the wrong direction!

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018