Bout 2 months, we started calling one another outside of my sister just to chat about life. All her relationship goals are the same as mine, she has been single over a year, she is putting herself through school, is 31 no kids but wants them, is a good Christian woman, has a sassy banter like I have and is a family oriented woman. Very girly very feminine. We would talk about being nurses, about our relationships and why they failed, just anything really. She lives a couple hours away, but i realized That is the type of person that one day I want to find. And I know that it is possible but I never could holding on to a ww that just wants to use and abuse me forever. I made my stand and I’m never going back.
Aha! Now standing up to STBXW makes sense. That you didn't mention this possible OW in the wings earlier is an indicator you may have suspected it would be frowned upon and isn't good for you. I sincerely hope you find the strength to separate yourself from XW's family, find a good life solo, and THEN date. I know you're opposed to therapy but it can speed along the process and get you to a happier place more quickly.
