Yeah her family is really sad, but they constantly apologize for what she did/is doing. They all hope I find someone really good for me and they tell me that. It’s so sad and sometimes I think about what could have been but it’s a small shadow, because I know that after 11 years of her cheating expecting anything different is just a delusion. It will take her going through hell, and serious pain, to want to change, and that will take years. And that’s years I don’t have to sit around and wait. It’s been 7 months of waiting before I filed. And that was beyond what 99% of men would do with this bad of a ww. My WW is already talking to previous OM again, prob trying to snake her way back into his life she destroyed. She is so manipulative it’s insane. I see the toxicity now and when I look at her I see a beautiful empty person with pure darkness inside her. I pity her sometimes that she will never know fulfillment and she can never give it either. We don’t talk now, especially since I blocked it all there has been zero comm. I prefer it 100% just speaking to her really irritated me since she was so disrespectful all these years.
I had been talking to my sisters friend on the phone (like a 3 way call) for some time now. Bout 2 months, we started calling one another outside of my sister just to chat about life. All her relationship goals are the same as mine, she has been single over a year, she is putting herself through school, is 31 no kids but wants them, is a good Christian woman, has a sassy banter like I have and is a family oriented woman. Very girly very feminine. We would talk about being nurses, about our relationships and why they failed, just anything really. She lives a couple hours away, but i realized That is the type of person that one day I want to find. And I know that it is possible but I never could holding on to a ww that just wants to use and abuse me forever. I made my stand and I’m never going back.
I’m in a good place now, I value myself I feel good about what I did and I will move on someday and be truly happy with someone else. I am actually okay with that now. I can still be a great dad and have a life and I accepted that.
Last edited by Steve_; 05/05/2110:05 AM.
T:11 M:10 K: D5, S7 BD: 9/1/20 WW continues to break up and recon with OM. I paid last fees and pushed the D 5/3/2021 Default Dissolution granted 8/5/21. Glad my D was not busted.
