You shouldn't be trying to manipulate them into being drawn to you. You should be looking for the ones who think you're great as you are.
My ex was a bit OCD and had a critical streak (not just to me, but to himself also). I was very thin when we met (underweight actually) but even then had a curvy figure with wide hips and really was never his physical "type" as he's super fat phobic.
One surprising benefit of dating after divorce was that several men that I dated were African American and to them, my booty was my BEST feature! Also, my ex was in the same profession as me and very smart but he always had a chip on his shoulder because I was a better test taker than him (I never thought I was smarter than him - we just have different types of intelligence. He's better at some things and I'm better at others). And although most of the men I dated after divorce were not as academically accomplished as my ex, none of them were bothered by my intellect. It's so refreshing to be appreciated for who you are, not who someone wants you to be.
