None of the things you describe here are anything but minor annoyances. Honestly, if these were the worst things he ever did, you’d be quite thrilled.
If you don’t let go of all this little stuff it’ll drive you crazy. Even loving dads in intact marriages do things differently than their wives, and prioritize different things. Yes, it’s annoying for you to be the only adult in the room, and I believe your ex is a sociopath - but none of THESE things are important. Let go of your expectations and your need for control over these little things. Save it for the stuff that really matters.
