Oh...and one more thing about D. My D is 13 and we have a really good relationship. Lots of love there. However, she is not the little kid that wants to hold my hand anymore (thankfully her brother still is...lol). And when she is upset, she often tells me up front she does not want to hug me and I should know that she HATES hugs...from anyone. Ouch. When that happens, it definitely stings because I would love to hug her. But...she’s just not there and I choose not to take it personally. Puberty is tough and I think it is even tougher these days. So focus on the things you can change and try not to personalize everything she does. She knows you are not a bad guy. She knows you love her. Just be consistent in your communication (whatever she will allow) and keep the door open. This isn’t going to last forever and even your ex will eventually lose steam with her campaign of disdain towards you. It’s hard to fight with someone who will not engage with you. (((HUGS)))
