But is it really good for my s to be going through this? I feel horrible for my s to have to go through this.
Your son's attitude will be influenced by yours. Are you treating the hand-off like a tense situation requiring a man with a gun OR are you requesting the chief always assign the same person, chatting and joking with the officer, and making as light as possible that you and your wife can't be in the same room so you need a 3rd party for the exchange?
Originally Posted by LH19
I think about my daughter who is 12. My exw could say just about anything in the world to her about me and it wouldn't change her view of me. Why? Because of how she feels when she is with me. She loves me, she trusts me and IMO if that ever changes it is on me.
For about a year, my ex slammed me to my kids. "Mommy says you never let her have <holiday>" "Mommy and I agreed on a holiday schedule and we both signed it." "Mommy says you made her sign it." Was it fun? No. Did it have a huge impact? No.
Originally Posted by Wolf
Boy Wolf you are sure always the victim.
When we asked you to reduce pressure on all your relationships, taking your GF to the exchange and having her go into the station wasn't that. I get your lawyer asked you to bring someone with you during any exchange to be a witness. Obviously, some people are single, and I would never put my GF's through that. So, the next question to the lawyer is, "Got nobody. Now what?" I suspect he'd recommend a dashcam or GoPro to achieve similar ends.
Wolf, I get your wife may be an escalater and you simply may not de-escalate. Constantly ask yourself when it pertains to you GF, S, D, and XW--how could I de-escalate this situation?
No, I don't think going belly up in court helps you or tells your D and S you care. I suspect your XW's been emboldened that you talk big about her bad behaviors but ultimately dropped your case in court without presenting any evidence. Don't "battle" her. Ask your lawyer to present your proof, hers will do the same, and a judge will rule.
Yes, after winning in court, give you D space if she wants it. Your choice. Her choice. Not XW's choice.
