It was MLC. Now I am calling moving forward.

[Wolfman]

My d is so brainwashed she wants nothing to do with me.

Boy Wolf you are sure always the victim. I would love to give you the benefit of the doubt but I just can't get myself to do it. I think about my daughter who is 12. My exw could say just about anything in the world to her about me and it wouldn't change her view of me. Why? Because of how she feels when she is with me. She loves me, she trusts me and IMO if that ever changes it is on me.

Do I let my d go and wait for the day she realizes I am not what her mom made me out to be or do I fight and possibly win and have a d who is so depressed and defiant.

I think you have to let her go for now. As sad as it sounds maybe time and space will do some good. Nobody wins in D but it's safe to say everyone in your situation loses including your GF, your new baby and your exw's boyfriend. Very tragic!

LH I hear what you are saying as far as me playing victim. I wish I could show you pictures of my d and I before the d. Especially the last few days of elementary school for her. I walked her to school holding hands, the very last day we cried together because that was the last time I could walk her. Then 2 months later we started the divorce and litttle by little my d starts to hate me. And like I said before, I saw specific texts between my d and ex, where my ex is bashing me, she put tracking devices on my kids phones (my d had her phone for a year and a half and never once did my ex ever say about putting a tracking device on it), encouraging my d not to call me. And look LH I am glad you still have that relationship with your d. Everyone is different. My d was also in therapy since she was 5 for SEVERE separation anxiety from her mom. Look I know I made mistakes too, I wasn’t perfect and I am trying real hard to be the most amazing dad now. For me, it’s just hard for me to wrap my head around the dislike my d has for me.