A year on and standing 2

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A long weekend away for Labour Day celebration where we are.

You are right Steve that we tends to take cues from their body language and become "Expert Interpreter" of such. However how she is behaving isn't affecting me in the sense that it bothers me but I just thought why is she making things hard for her self in this manner?

She can excuse herself if she does not feel like coming. It's not the first time she misses out on such family occasions. I just thought if she bothers to come, why she still pull the long face? Well it's just her against her emotions. I can't judge her on that nor would I want to be concern more than observation. Like you said, thats how the WAW mindset works.
Just on the similar note to her weird proposal of staying together post D.

With regards to kids observing the daily dynamics, yeah I agree. I did sit down with them before and explore the possibility of post divorce and separation. At this point in time, although they know their mom does not love me anymore in her present state, they are still hoping that we will be together with each other. They are also against the thoughts of separation and prefer the existing arrangement. Thus also I keep them in check with IC because the feedback from IC of their well being also affects my decision and next steps.

Well I would not say that this will go on forever, but weighing the pros and cons, and their overall well being in check (Both are happy now, fulfilled, independent and model students in school), I might be able to afford stand awhile more. I was rather surprised when I talked to them that they are able to discuss with me calmly about the family situation and how they feel, instead of breaking down that I cautiously imagined. I do explain to them why I am still standing even though I could have just walked away, was because of how we came by in building the family and because I love our family, not because that I am staying for their sake.

But that being said, It's also the last straw for the camel back. I told myself if she brought up divorce again, I will facilitate the process, make it easy for her by withdrawing my previous terms of no overnight stays which seem to be the thing that is holding her back and if not, I'll take the initiative to file it.