Time for another check in. Got SD21 moved out...mostly. She gave me a tour of her new home. She is renting a room in a house with five other 20-somethings...mostly university students. Two guys that live in the basement and four girls upstairs. She doesn’t know anyone so it is a bit like moving into a dorm for the first day. I have a ton of great memories living in dorms so I’m hoping she has fun too. I couldn’t help but notice about six garbage bags full of empties on the back deck. Hoping it took them a year to accumulate...lol.
Spent Saturday running errands and then had dinner at my sister’s and we went through some boxes we hauled out of her storage locker that were left over from my mom’s place. Found a ton of letters and report cards. My mom saved every letter I ever wrote to them. I found one I wrote to my parents when I was 15. I didn’t remember writing it but I do remember the incident that had prompted it. I had started hanging out with kids who were living on the edge a bit and had come home at 1 a.m. in a very loud muscle car with three of the boys. My parents were pretty worried I was going down the wrong path and we had a family meeting the next day. I thought I was going to be grounded but we talked it out and they decided to trust me. The letter I wrote thanked them for trusting me and assuring them I had a good head on my shoulders and wouldn’t get into drugs and alcohol as I loved them and myself too much. I then went on to describe each of the boys I had been hanging out with...their circumstances, their strengths and the effect my friendship was having on them. I wrote that I wouldn’t stop being friends with them because I was growing along with them and I loved watching them change for the positive. Hmmm...and I grew up to become a social worker...lol. Go figure.
It’s been almost three weeks since I started talking to Brook again. I think there have been only two days that I haven’t heard from him. It’s been nice talking to him. You’ll all be happy to know that I’ve stuck to my guns and not suggested we get together. The ball is squarely in his court and I have lots of other things to focus on. If we are meant to be anything other than casual friends, it will happen eventually. I’m just going to let fate take its course. (((HUGS))) to all.
