I don’t know if it’s most - but there’s definitely a subset of the culture out there where such an attitude persists. Not in my roots, but some.
I got the best revenge by living well. My exH thought he was the “musician” in the family, but when he finally left in a MLC blaze of glory, I took up playing the drums. I played in an amateur pop-punk band for several years, and started playing glockenspiel, vibraphone and snare h go if my feet friend who is a professional singer- songwriter. I’ve toured with her several times, played on her last album, and a year before the pandemic, played with her in Central Park in a tribute to Greenwich Village musicians. We played in front of about 5,000 people, with John Sebastian, Jose Feliciano, Melanie , Marshall Crenshaw, Maria Muldaur and many other big names.
