Btw - I handled all the finances in my long marriage, my ex wasn’t a spendthrift exactly but I would have prioritized some things differently. I’m grateful though that I had the financial reins as he is an impulsive spender. I’ve been able to help our adult kids in ways that he won’t, even though his income is double mine. My retirement will be adequate, thanks in part to my keeping daily expenses in reasonable limits and avoiding credit card debt throughout our marriage.
I have to say, even though my income is less in divorce, I find it much more comfortable to budget without the unexpected - like the time my ex came home with two acoustic guitars for a total of $5500 without discussing it. Mind you, he had a decent Taylor, and I wouldn’t have even had a problem with ONE $3,000 guitar, but for a guy who knew how to strum a dozen Neil Young songs, this was excessive! And the kind of purchase one should at least have discussed.
So I can feel you guys who were married to child-women who were financially irresponsible. There’s a certain type of woman who just wants big daddy to provide and doesn’t understand math or financial responsibility. (Not saying there aren’t men like that too, but it seems to be more commonly a woman thing).
